On January 19, 2017, while during a dentist appointment at Lifetime Smiles in Marion, Indiana, I had seen the upper roof of my mouth had a lesion. Upon checking out, I had learned my insurance didn’t cover the injury and I knew something was wrong, obviously at the hands of my own girlfriend.
My girlfriend of two years 49-year-old Kymberly Alvaraz, had overcooked a fateful Christmas dinner that caused great oral injury consistent to injuries confirmed by Doctor Schindler at Lifetime Smiles. After reviewing what my options were about a way to pay a $650 dental bill, I was really upset. But nothing compared to what I would endure moments after leaving the dentist on the afternoon of January 19.
Two days earlier while I was at my family physician at the South Side Medical Park in Marion, I was unofficially diagnosed with a stomach ulcer caused from an unrelated incident that turned out to be one of my closest calls in 30 years, if not the closest call in my life. I had that instinct I knew something wasn’t right and the fact it was the close call was ON MY BIRTHDAY two weeks earlier after enduring an illness that was stemmed from a December 29, 2016 incident near downtown Marion. I had vomited for two days straight right after The Voice 11 finale.
After returning home from the dentist, things escalated to the point where I’ll never forget the actions of my 22-month-old son, Kenneth, and what my 13-year-old daughter, Tabitha, did. Kymberly pushed me on to the living room couch as hard as she could and the stomach ulcer was acting up. She tried to chock me as hard as she could, but fatherly instinct kicked in. I knew what my next move was since I tried to scream yet muffled. Kenneth came in and that was when I knew what my next move was–gouging one of Kymberly’s eyes and then got up and made a citizen’s arrest. Tabitha pulled Kymberly’s hair as a method of restraint as Kymberly was arrested and I asked Kymberly to leave my home. Another daughter of mine, Ashli, transported to local police where she finally charged with second degree strangulation, domestic battery, and assault.
I then realized I’d been in familiar territory I’ve only been in before with my first girlfriend and the mother of my eldest daughter some 20 years ago and the second time was October 2013 with the same woman–my first girlfriend (Amanda Davidson). I knew it was domestic violence. I knew it then when Amanda pushed me hard when I was living with my mom in Van Buren in 1994 and I knew it when Kymberly laid her hands on me on January 19.
Aside from enduring domestic violence both as a guy (I was an 11 year old boy) in 1994 and as a transgender woman now 34 years of age. I saw the same signs, Kenneth saw on January 19. What I saw in my son, Kenneth, that day and my now-oldest daughter, Samantha, in 1994 was me nearly 35 years earlier when my parents got into a domestic spat (I remember sleeping through the ordeal).
The differences from the 1994 incident with Amanda and the 2017 incident with Kymberly was, Kymberly was three months pregnant with my twin girls (to be named Alisan Wé and Saara Jessica) at the age of 49, which is a rarity, while in the 1994 incident, Amanda wasn’t. For all I know, I must have missed the warning signs about postpartum depression that I should’ve known about. I had suspected Kymberly had postpartum depression, yet wasn’t sure about the facts until I watched an episode of “Deadly Women” on YouTube recently. In particular, after watching one particular episode or two of “Deadly Women” had Paula Sims and Kelly Silk if I recall had in my opinion had even worse postpartum depression that didn’t end well.
Another difference was the fact, is It is the same Kymberly that was declared the highest bidder when I auctioned off my virginity in 2014. Amanda, on the other hand, did not pay for the long term relationship rights. Kymberly was the first to pay for the Relationship Agreement.
Will this mean my relationship with Kymberly end in a breakup or even legal action? Since my virginity auction is considered prostitution in Indiana, I’m basically been a “gay hoe” (or an awful slang term describing a slutty transwoman being a prostitute) for the money. If Kymberly wants to mend the long-term relationship after this incident, she will need to be on some psychiatric medication that will definitely help her and with the fact Kymberly approaching menopause, I think there is a slight chance the relationship can be saved. Kymberly will also need some psychological help professionally to help her postpartum depression and with being diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder myself (a matter of what will work for yours truly).
There is a reason why I still have a Dating and Relationships policy since January 4, 1993. The six Relationship Agreements I made with Amanda, Elisa (Everman), Angie (Willis), Christy (Johnson), and Kymberly are basically treated as marriages in some way. In all of those relationships, the aforementioned five women are automatically sex partners of yours truly — no ifs and/or buts about that. It may be one of the strictest relationship policies as it’s considered to be a legally binding agreement and a date when the contract ends. On two occasions, the relationship ended after I caught her cheating since I’ve never did do any infidelities and loyal. On another occasion, the second relationship with Amanda ended after she effectively caused major property damage.
Another issue or two to consider whether or not to even thinking about ending the long term relationship with Kymberly has to be the question whether to impeach Kymberly under Jessica’s Policy (enacted on January 4, 2010 in honor of the late Jessica Berg and initially a tougher dating and relationship policy) á la a Presidential Impeachment. The second issue, also since Jessica’s Policy went into effect, which is how will Kymberly react to getting that “Dreaded Dear Jane Letter” I will send if and when should I have to end the long term relationship with Kymberly.
With that in mind, I am giving Kymberly ONE LAST CHANCE since Kymberly and I have invested more than I’ve invested in Angie and Amanda combined. If Kymberly doesn’t fulfill these expectations in what’s effectively a reconciliation, I may have to end the relationship with Kymberly on January 3, 2018 (the same day the current agreement expires). So we’ll have to wait and see.
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