In more ways than one close friend could possibly imagine, yet in some odd manner since 1990, Holly Everman’s friends have been dreading for this day. They’ve been dreading for the day when she’d reach rock bottom and be forced to come to terms with an alcohol problem that she’s battled for some time.
“She’s a sick, sick woman,” one source told me. “She desperately needs help.”
There was a sad inevitability to what happened Sunday morning on the northwest side of Indianapolis when she was arrested for her second DUI this year alone. Everman faces four felony counts after being arrested on preliminary charges of driving under the influence and possession of a controlled substance. As someone I have been close friends with for 25 years, insider sources and fellow Muncie Central High School Class of 1998 alumni have known that Holly was struggling again with alcohol. For years, they fought to get her into rehab. At the very least, they fought to get her a driver in the hopes of keeping her from getting behind the wheel.
I have been cleaning up Holly’s messes for years now, especially since May of 2012 following the death of another good friend–Robyn (Hurd) Matthewson. Time and again, Everman dismissed the concerns of her close friends and confidants, even if her increasingly attractive physical appearance sent up red flags throughout the community.
I asked her back in 2011 when I was visiting her in Muncie about her weight gain, which has brought her from 135 pounds to 190, and she insisted the doctors kept telling her to lose weight.
I suspected otherwise.
Those of us who are around Holly Everman on a regular basis suspected otherwise for a very long time.
So why didn’t you know what was wrong with Holly Everman?
That’s a fair question I got asked in 2011. But it’s much like the NBA players during the Detroit Pitons Bad Boys era. Suspicions cannot be the basis for a post on this web site — AvaZinn.com. My feeling all along has been, “Unless she gets arrested for drugs, or acts erratically in a public setting while obviously under the influence, it will remain nothing more than an educated guess.”
Now he’s been arrested — twice now.
The game has changed.
That was hammered home Monday morning as a bunch of media waited outside the Indianapolis-Marion County Sheriff’s Office. Around 8:30, Everman and her lawyer, appeared and got into a car without comment. Everman looked beaten, face blotchy. It was a sad sight but not a surprising one.
She has two big problems, besides the obvious alcohol issue: She has the appearance of a former supermodel, and she has lots of free time. That is a dangerous cocktail for a woman with a genetic predisposition to alcohol abuse.
That doesn’t make her a bad woman, just a troubled one, one who has been in and out of rehab on multiple occasions, one who needs to get herself some help again if she wants to be alive for the American Idol’s next female winner.
This is not written in anger. It’s written with compassion — although if she’d hurt someone while driving, it would take on a different tone. This is a woman 34 years of age I’ve been best friends with since 1989 in the throes of addiction, a disease she’s been fighting for four years with mixed results.
Now comes the wake-up call.
Do you hear it, Holly? Do you hear it? Or do you press the snooze button and continue on this downward spiral? Or did you realize when you shaved your head when Christina Grimmie finished third place on The Voice and Josh K robbed Christina of “The Voice 6” title — in the process delivering Vote for the Girls its first loss on “The Voice” in addition to Jena Asciutto finishing runner-up on American Idol 13? Or did you realize when you had the audacity to call Khayla Chow “a bisexual black bimbo” during an appearance on Vote for the Girls on YouTube, you and Khayla got into a heated argument about the Malaya Watson’s elimination and Chow shoved you to the floor you saw the downward spiral happening?
There’s no shame. There’s no embarrassment. Fact is, if Holly gets the help she needs, she’d be a public beacon for the multitudes who also need help with alcohol and sex addition. Just as Brian Wilkes of Fox 59 in Indianapolis has taken the small step in finding a cure for cancer and more specifically Breast Cancer — though it is Beards for Breast Cancer, Everman can be a guiding light for those in the grips of addiction.
She’s just got to decide it’s time.
Because, well, it is time.
As a secondary issue, there’s now the question of what as I, Ava Zinn, as the administrator, founder, and webmaster of Vote for the Girls, will do once I collect all the pertinent information. I can promise you the fans and followers of Ava Zinn, Holly Everman, as well as Vote for the Girls and INNewsCenter will watch this closely. Will I come down as hard on Holly Everman as I do with other friends? Do not be shocked or surprised if I have to sanction or metes out some sort of harsh punishment against Holly.
At this point, Holly Everman needs to temporarily abdicate control of her role as my BFF to either Alec Dailey (even though she and Alec have gotten into many heated exchanges over the years), Serena R, her longtime right-hand woman, or either her sisters, Elisa and Lynsey–both Elisa and Lynsey have children of their own (of which I was, from 1997 to 2000, in a relationship with Elisa (and have a daughter, Tiffani f/k/a Timothy and Elisa has another daughter, Nermal, now moderator of the UK and Australian version of Vote for the Girls) and I was, from 2000 until 2011, colleagues with Lynsey at NoSirGifts Venues before I walked away in 2011–despite being an heiress to the NoSirGifts franchise). Holly’s got more important business to take care of than worrying about Vote for the Girl’ next victory. With or without Holly Everman, it shouldn’t change very much about the short-term, day-to-day operations of Vote for the Girls. I take care of that end of the business.
Again, though, that’s secondary.
Based on several conversations I had over the past several weeks and months with the other Vote for the Girls (US, UK, and Australia) moderators and other friends of mine and Holly’s, Holly Everman is pretty much a woman fighting for her life.
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