Category Archives: Cold Case

08Oct/16

Addressing Response Regarding Facebook post about 1994 Eastbrook/Mississinewa Inclimate WX Cold Case…

Editor’s note: This letter is in response to reaction to one decision made by the late Eastbrook Consolidated Schools Superintendent Dennis Fox (1945-2016) in February 1994. This is considered to be a “civil cold case” now resolved.

Our hearts, thoughts, and prayers go out to Dr. Fox’s family and friends during this extremely difficult time. A brave husband and educator lost his life after an illness. We also extend our sympathy to one of my late brother’s friends Jessica (Todd) Fox and offer thanks to those who have stood by yours truly after Albert’s suicide on August 10, 2002 (even though he drowned at Pine Lake).

I have received a number of comments about a Facebook post that I had to post since it met my threshold of a post that seemed necessary in my judgement. It was Dr. Fox’s obituary nonetheless. The reason why I intercepted that particular post after I read it on Facebook via Jessica and the fact back in February of 1994, Mississinewa Community Schools was either under a delay or running on time while the home district at the time (Eastbrook) was closed due to weather conditions, and in violation of a Zinn Family Policy that went into effect on July 4, 1993 (follow the Mississinewa Community Schools Schedule regardless of the schedules of the home district–even if Eastbrook is on delay or closed).

As a fourth grader at Northview Elementary School (located in the Mississinewa School District) living in Van Buren (in the Eastbrook school district) back in February 1994, I had begun to take the role more of a parent than a child. Education then as now is important. It is just one reason why at the end of every Vote for the Girls episode, I add the phrase, “Help control your child’s education, have them immunized.” I would go on and on and on explaining in further details like the Energizer bunny, but I am not going to.

Twenty-two and a half (22 1/2) years later–in 2016–now as a woman and a father (yes, I still am a father despite the ongoing gender transition) of four daughters (one of them has since graduated from college, two in high school and one in middle school), it is safe to say that a dispute is finally resolved. Fall/Autumn is now in full swing. It’s chilly. It’s a time of year when you start preparing for winter weather conditions such as snow and ice, which is an even greater hassle than usual because of the cold conditions. Nonetheless, I used to love snow and play in it, but not anymore after 1994 after that incident and seeing a water heater pipe bursting when I lived at my mother’s in Van Buren. (I never forgot it as long as I’m alive)

After celebrating my 11th birthday, I took a vow of loyalty when I got the flu back in January 1994 and had to miss school due to that. It is also a vow of perfection and doing whatever it took and anything to achieve that goal–even if means going to school sick, making the three hour walk or one hour bike trip from Van Buren to Gas City in the event Mississinewa Community Schools is running on schedule while Eastbrook Community is either closed or delayed (which meant back then no transportation).

That particular incident of which following an investigation that was later determined to be at the decision of Dr. Fox back then (and at one point, if memory serves me right, even tried to confront him right after my brother’s high school graduation in June 1996, but my mother wouldn’t allow me to do so–despite knowing what I knew was right and wrong on my part). That decision of Dr. Fox to have the audacity to closing Eastbrook for the day in February 1994 while Mississinewa wasn’t, which to this day (and have now officially forgiven Dr. Fox for that) was ruled (based on 1994 rules and regulations) for CAUSING (yes, I said “causing” since then as now as it could have easily all been avoided had Mississinewa AND Eastbrook closed for the day) yours truly to lose out perfect attendance back in the 1993-94 school year.

It was after my mother, brother, and I relocated from Van Buren to Marion on October 15, 1996 influenced of what my immediate family would become and learning from the mistakes a parent made while growing up: to ensure my children get their education and becoming a far better parent than my mother was when she raised my brother and myself, I adopted a special system (dubbed the “Bothwell system” after the then-Mississinewa Community Schools superintendent Dr. Robert Bothwell when I attended RJB and Ole Miss High School), while my four daughters and son (Samantha, Tiffani, Ashli, Tabitha, and Kenneth) as well as my step-daughter Denise (Kymberly’s youngest daughter) would contractually stipulate (it’s a rule that I have enforced since July 4, 1993) about school closings/delays involving my children’s and my alma matter school district (Mississinewa Community Schools) regardless of the home school district (in this case since 1996, Marion Community Schools and from 1985 until 1996 Eastbrook Community Schools), and ensuring my children meet or even exceed a good attendance record–a very important aspect of having a good education.

Under the terms of the July 1993 rule passed by the family legislature, I had a contractual obligation as a 10 year old boy, I have to arrive promptly at Northview Elementary promptly at 8:25 a.m. Eastern, and cannot arrive late or be absent for any reason whatsoever, even weather conditions. I was inclined to favor my education over whatever any administrator says (two clear examples were on April 18, 1996 and in January 1997), as I only had two friends (Holly Everman and Robyn Hurd) being well treated well in hopes of return loyalty.

That obligation, unfortunately, often times includes controversy, backlash, negative criticism, uncomfortable subjects that are at times difficult to hear, make you upset, or even make you angry. And while this Mississinewa High School Class of 2001 Alumnus is now living as a woman 34 years of age, everyone involved is human and have similar reactions. So these are situations we take very seriously.

By learning about Dr. Fox’s death this week from a long-time friend of Albert’s that I inherited, I was able get a resolution to a 22 1/2 year old dispute automatically and officially forgave Dr. Fox.

Also by deciding to posting the obituary on Facebook with my thoughts, you were able to get an answer to “who caused Ava Zinn to miss school that day in February 1994?” I also wanted to give some insight and direction into someone I did not agree with about the decision to delay or cancel school involving two school districts–attending and home districts. For some, maybe it’s something you are already familiar with in Grant County or wherever you live; for others it may be something you simply do not understand or comprehend and I suggest you do some research–that’s how you will learn by reading and doing research.

Plus, if my memory serves me correctly when I read the obituary, I learned Dr. Fox was pretty much the predecessor of Dr. Bothwell and in a bit of an irony (not 100 percent sure or even confirmed this) from what I remember, I’m pretty sure there is an indirect lead (maybe just a hunch) to my dis-enrollment from Indiana Wesleyan University 15 years ago and the hunt for another college/university to attend in order for readmission to IWU after completing a few credit hours at another college/university (something I have determined back in January 2002). It was very difficult for to see, comprehend and understand — mostly for anyone who attended Mississinewa Community Schools but doesn’t live in the school district.

This story was just only one small part of my complete coverage of the IWU Cold Case and ensuring what I know is right for my children. I will continue to fight for family and continued do so.

It is not my my intention to bash someone that has recently passed while that same individual’s family is in mourning, as one person commented on Facebook. This is not the first time it has happened, and I’m sure it will not be the last.

Again, I honor Dr. Fox for his dedication to the Eastbrook Community Schools and we hope you understand the tough choices that must be made. Like my friends and fans–BOTTOM LINE–justice is officially served .

Ava Zinn
Transgendered sister of Albert Zinn (1977-2002)

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07Oct/15

Ava Zinn to take part in Risperdal settlement

Risperdal

In August 2002, just days after my brother Albert took his own life (despite the Adams County Corner ruling my brother’s death an accident), I was prescribed by Dr. Jerry Co a drug called Risperdal after I said, “I’m OK, but not OK.”

I took that particular medication for as much as as six months and realised that my fate (as a biological male) was sealed the second the pill traveled through my liver.

Today, after reading through my Facebook feed, about Risperdal and male breaths growth, I had an obligation to make my story heard.

I will update this story.

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15Sep/11

Ava Zinn on Google Maps: No IWU Zone – Marion

UPDATED: 10/10/2016 4:07 AM

The No IWU Zone map is updated to reflect what has happened since that fateful day.

 


ORIGINAL STORY:

To fill the void between posts, I have decided to launch a new feature called Ava  Zinn on Google Maps. In a post like this, there will be a map in the post that will give followers on this site. In this very first Ava Zinn on Google Maps, since the 10th anniversary of my dismissal from Indiana Wesleyan University is approaching, I have decided to create a Google Maps feature called “Ava’s No IWU Zone.” I first spoke about this with several of my friends and classmates during my high school reunion back in July. I remember Wendy (Becker) saying, “I don’t blame you,” after I commented on my IWU dismissal, “have never been in that vicinity since.”

In all Google Maps posts, you can navigate around the map by placing your cursor (the hand) on the map and dragging the image around or by using the up, down, left, and right arrows in the upper left corner of the map.

Zoom in or out by using the plus (zoom in) or minus (zoom out) buttons on the left side of the map.

Clicking on an individual marker will give you information regarding that specific location

Below the map you will find a key regarding specific stores and information

 

 

KEY

 

Black line Current No IWU Zone Boundary (as of 2016)
Orange line No IWU Zone Boundary (2011-2016)
Yellow line No IWU Zone Boundary (2006-2011, after the University Mail Services launched)
Blue line original No IWU Zone Boundary (2001-2006)

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25Feb/11

COLD CASE | Mississinewa 500 Investigation – Is it Possible to Hold a Rematch 10 years later, but with new girl?

How to Recreate a Prom for Someone Who Missed Theirs

from wikiHow – The How to Manual That You Can Edit
Prom night can be a wonderful experience for high school seniors. But we all know someone who missed their prom and now has some regret. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to re-create a prom experience for them so they can finally get some closure on the matter?

Steps

  1. Obtain a good, realistic venue. Your ideal venue is any facility with some kind of dance floor, such as a ballroom at a hotel or even a community center, and/or a high school or community college auditorium or gymnasium. As long as you have some kind of reasonable dance floor, any venue will do if it feels realistic enough. Check around in the area where you are planning to hold the event.
  2. Consider hiring an event planner if you can afford to do so. Depending on your budget, this might be a viable way to save yourself a lot of headache, but beware event planner fees can get pretty high too.
  3. If possible, try to contact your guest of honor’s high school and find out things like the school colors, the theme of the prom for the year (s)he would have gone, and maybe see if you can borrow one of the leftover tickets (some schools keep these on file or as keepsakes) to make reproductions of.
  4. Make sure you budget enough for a crown and tiara (for the prom king and prom queen), and make sure your guest of honor is crowned king/queen. His/her date or significant other should be crowned as the other royalty member.
  5. Make a yearbook. This will not be nearly as difficult or expensive as you might think. Obtain photos of your guest of honor and his/her friends from high school in advance, scan them, incorporate them into a 20-page-or-so Microsoft Word document which also includes mock yearbook text, convert it to a PDF file, and submit it to a site such as [www.createspace.com CreateSpace].
  6. Try to make the prom as close to what it would have been like the year your guest of honor graduated high school. Either play (or have your DJ play) songs from the era, and/or incorporate the popular trends of the time into the theme. For instance you might have something that resembles a Friends or Titanic theme if your guest of honor graduated in 1998, or an Austin Powers retro-1960s theme if your guest of honor graduated in 2001, etc.
  7. Try to get a few of your guest of honor’s best friends, from high school, college, and/or now, etc. to come., and try to get at least 20 people to come. You can invite more people if your budget will allow, but try to have at least 20 so it seems at least quasi-realistic. Make sure they all know to dress formally, as this is a “prom” theme.
  8. Arrange to rent a limo to pick up your guest of honor and his/her date – whether this is a current significant other or an arranged date.
  9. Make sure your guest of honor has a date for the event. If (s)he does not currently have a spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend, consider having someone serve as an escort for him/her. At a last resort, consider hiring a male or female escort (NOT an erotic one) for one night, but beware this can get expensive.

ALTERNATIVE IDEAS

  1. Inquire about the possibility of having him/her attend an upcoming high school prom. If your “guest of honor” missed his/her prom for a really good reason, such as military service, being in a coma, or helping starving orphans overseas, a good alternate would be to write to his/her high school to inquire about the possibility of allowing him/her, perhaps with two to six of his/her best friends, to attend an upcoming high school prom. A well-placed letter to the principal or superintendent, especially if accompanied with an offer for a reasonable donation, can have surprisingly effective results – (NOTE: Sometimes a good enough donation can negate the need for a good reason…there have been people who were banned from the prom that attended one years later after becoming successful and “bribing” school officials with a donation.)
  2. Take your “guest of honor” with a few of his/her best friends to an Adult Prom. No – it’s NOT some X-rated event – just a prom-theme party for adults to either re-live or re-create their prom night. These are held everywhere from community centers to venues such as that of the audience-participation Broadway show/prom simulation “The Awesome ’80s Prom” in New York City.

Tips

  • Don’t forget the crown, tiara, and sashes for the prom king and prom queen. Especially if you are recreating a prom for a female. You don’t have to get an expensive crown, tiara, or sash – prom supplies such as Stump’s Prom sell really fancy-looking crowns and tiaras for about $35, or simple ones around $20. You can also get prom crowns and tiaras on websites like eBay, usually ranging from $9.95 for the novelty ones high schools use, to very real tiaras containing Swarovski crystals ranging from usually about $70-$100 and up. Or you can go to any craft store, such as Michael’s or Hobby Lobby, and find the materials to make a really nice one for about $10 to $20.
  • Find out what your guest of honor’s favorite songs were from his/her high school years, and burn them onto a mix CD. Or, if you have a D.J., have him/her play the songs.

Warnings

  • Don’t serve alcohol, especially if anybody under 21 is attending. You don’t want to cause yourself and/or your guest of honor legal problems as a result of trying to do something nice. The other reason you don’t serve alcohol (though less important than the risk of serving underage persons) is that it will make the prom seem less realistic. High school proms don’t serve alcohol.
  • Don’t try to hold the event outdoors – especially if you live in any area where the weather is unpredictable. One storm will really put a damper on things.
  • Make sure that a re-created prom is something your “guest of honor” would actually be interested in before going to the expense – it would be terrible to go to all that expense and have the guest of honor not even show up.

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25Feb/11

COLD CASE | Mississinewa 500 Investigation – Ava’s HS Senior Year: What Really Went On?

How to Have Fun As a Senior in High School

from wikiHow – The How to Manual That You Can Edit
After about 12 years of hard work and education, your senior year has come. There will be a lot of fun events that will make it a memorable year, but this year may be a very tough year in other areas.

NOTE: Bold indicates what Aeverine Zinn did during her underclass years. Bold italics indicate done after age 18.

Steps

  1. Try to stay on top of your homework – even though you are a senior, you are still in school. The senior slide might of kicked in already the fall of your senior year. This is not the time to slack and your grades still count as part of your GPA and this may give you many benefits such as lower car insurance, better college eligibility, higher career opportunities, etc. You will less likely to be involved in crimimal activity or get on academic probation in college if you get higher grades senior year.
    1. Despite staying on top of homework during my senior year, I still was a “second-rate” male student that ranked in the top 30% and was seeking to bump it up a notch by searching for my next relationship at the time to make look good.
  2. Take all your required courses in lower grades – if you have a leftover math credit or art credit, you might not be able to take the fun classes you want as a senior. Senior year is based on electives and that will be great for career exploration, not catching up on that missed freshman Statistics credit. If you love math,take more advanced math as well or something like that. If you have a passion for computers, take some web design, computer repair or programming classes. If you love PE, take some advanced PE courses.
    1. I did take a class my senior that intrigued me year and remembering from my 7th grade shop class would be the two interests that were really not the career I had envisioned.
  3. Go to the games, the concerts, the plays – it’s your senior year and it will make good memories many years after graduation. If you are a basketball fan, see every basketball game.
    1. Because I was 17 at the time of the Mississinewa Homecoming game, I wasn’t allowed to watch the football game in person due to my mother’s house rules.
  4. Break up the cliques – it is time to break the walls. You are a senior and you may not see all of your fellow classmates ever again after graduation, so it is time to mingle and be nice to everyone. You can still have your group of friends, but don’t clique. Be goofy and squirmy as well, nobody cares what others think at that age.
  5. Make your mark – if you have some major high school goal, it is the time to do it. If you want to go to state in track, work hard and do it. Or you can take the risk of pulling a senior prank, but you might get in trouble for that one, even hindering your graduation.
  6. Think about your future – during breaks, such as Christmas and Thanksgiving, take college tours, take career assessments, decide what you want to do when you get out the door. You don’t have to work for your dream job yet; choose a major for a trade that is based on your talents and interests and go from there. You can also consider joining the armed services. For better results, it is best to have your future figured out by the summer of your senior year, not April.
  7. Attend the prom or formal – if you have a special girlfriend/boyfriend or a crush, ask that person to the prom/formal. Or take a real good friend. Try to look nice and approachable at the start of your senior year and start looking around Thanksgiving or Christmas if you are not in a steady relationship. You can go single but it may not be as fun, unless you are the type to go single. The prom is not mandatory, if you could care less and think it will be less stress, don’t go. You can attend the prom or formal a few years past senior year, so don’t sweat it. If you don’t have a chance in 2010, you can come back in 2011.
    1. This was a major goal of mine as it was a

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25Feb/11

COLD CASE | Mississinewa 500 Investigation – Searching and nominating: Where did Ava Go Wrong?

How to Invite a Girl to the Prom

from wikiHow – The How to Manual That You Can Edit
Have an eye on that special girl you want to ask to the prom? Not only will asking a girl to a prom be a magical experience for both involved, but it can make a girl feel great knowing that someone wants to go with her to such a special occasion. There are some steps you can take to make this a most wonderful invitation.

Steps

  1. Smile at her when you make eye contact, and talk to her when you can. Make sure you’re relaxed, and then you can make friends without trying too hard. Being too tense can make this an uncomfortable situation. Just make sure she doesn’t feel awkward while using eye contact.
  2. Become friends with her if you aren’t already. She’s more likely to take someone to the prom if she knows them. When you talk to her, try asking questions about HER. People like having the chance to talk about their selves. Compliments are the great way to start conversations and girls love compliments. Why are they spending so much time to get the perfect outfit and hairdo each day? If you have trouble with conversations, see Have a Great Conversation.
  3. Look presentable. She will not want to go to prom with you if you have bad breath, greasy hair and/or oily skin. Don’t change yourself too much to please her, but remember to be hygienic. Brush your teeth every morning, before school, you want fresh breath when you talk to her. Also if it’s allowed, chew minty gum or mints whenever you’re with her. Put on some cologne but not so much that she gets dizzy. Try to stick with who you are originally, don’t do a makeover or ann attitude change just to impress her.
  4. Find out if she has a date for the prom already; if she does, it’s just better to back off. If she doesn’t, go for it.
  5. Compliment her when you are talking together. Remember, if you can’t think of anything to say, don’t freak out. Asking simple questions (“How was your weekend?”) will usually get a conversation going again.
  6. Be yourself, breathe deeply, and go ahead–and don’t forget to be nice and smile. What have you got to lose? It’s your life, and you might just be happy in the end!
  7. Smile wide – not cheesy – and ask her nicely, “(Girls Name), will you go to prom with me?” A straight question is the most tried-and-true tactic. If she says no, don’t think it as the end of the world. Just accept it and ask “can we still be friends?”

Video

Tips (and where did Ava go wrong, and how didn’t prom date fulfill duties)

  • Remember that the prom is something that girls (and rarely guys) look forward to and probably won’t forget, so make it memorable when you ask her!
    • I asked 64 women and spent the entire senior year doing this.
  • Don’t over or undersell yourself. Try to find somebody that is about your level of attractiveness and social class.
    • Remember, I was voted best hair in high school

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25Feb/11

COLD CASE | Mississinewa 500 Investigation – Asking someone

How to Ask Someone to Prom

from wikiHow – The How to Manual That You Can Edit
Prom is coming–that monumental, unforgettable night that marks a high point in your high school years. You’ve chosen the person you’d like to share that memory with, but how do you find out if they want to share it with you? The manner in which you ask can increase your likelihood of getting an affirmative response. So don’t say “Uh, I wanted to, um, see if you, like, wanted to go to, uh, prom with me?” Be creative and unique!

Steps

  1. Ask someone you already know as a friend. Inviting someone who’s never said more than “Can I borrow a pencil?” to you severely decreases your chances of getting a “yes”. Can you blame them? Who wants to go to the prom with somebody they barely know? You might want to be their date because they’re the best-looking person in school, but you probably won’t have a good time. Choose your date wisely. It is more fun to go to the prom when you are with a person you have known for at least a year or two than picking up somebody you barely know off the street just because you think the person is hot.
  2. Flirt before you ask. If the prom is several weeks away, “prime” your desired date by flirting a little bit, if you aren’t already. Make them laugh and put your best foot forward. If you’re not already dating, think about asking them out. Show the person how well you can get along, and how much fun you have every time you get together. Give them a positive association to think back to when you eventually do ask. A compliment is always a good start because girls are more emotional than boys, and they dig for that stuff..
  3. Ask creatively. Prom is nearing and it’s time to put yourself out there. If you’re a guy, you’ll probably be expected to go all out and be romantic. If you’re a girl, the guy might feel intimidated and embarrassed if you come on too strong. But you should know your potential date well enough to recognize what they’ll like best!
    • Hit and run methods. These are best for if rejection is a high possibility. They’re daring, but if the answer is no, it won’t be as awkward.
      • Get a plain white t-shirt. It can be any material you choose. Write your name on it in permanent marker. Write the names of about 30 other girls/boys (same gender as you) in washable marker, but make sure that the marker comes out in the wash. Write a note that says to wash the shirt to find out who asked him/her to prom, so that when he/she washes it only your name will be left. (Specify that they shouldn’t wash the shirt with other clothes.) Tell them that if the answer is yes, they should wear the shirt the next day. Wrap it up and leave it on his/her doorstep, or mail it.
      • Attach a note to a remote control car asking them to go to the prom with you and to write their answer on the note itself (provide them with a pen, too!). Knock on your date’s door and quickly run and hide. When your date answers the door, drive the car up to them with the note and wait until they answer and close the door before driving the car back to you. This method will not work if there are steps leading up to the door, or if the date isn’t home!
    • Romantic methods. Best for asking someone you’re already dating and who you can expect to say yes.
      • Put Hershey’s kisses in the doorway of their house or bedroom along with a note that says “Now that I’ve kissed the ground you walk on, will you grace me with your presence at prom?”
      • Leave a trail of roses from their doorway to their bed, where they’ll find a note surrounded by flowers and balloons.
    • Comical methods. Best for the brave and the humorous. Higher success rate for girls asking guys than any other method.
      • Lie down in front of the person’s house. Have a friend trace the outline of your body with chalk. Leave a note behind that says “I’d DIE to go to prom with you” or “My attraction to you is FATAL. Will you come to prom with me?” With this method, make sure you get their parents’ permission, or else even a “yes” from your date might get overridden by a “no” from a parent who doesn’t appreciate chalk graffiti on their property.
      • Bake them a cake or a pie with your request written on it in icing: “Only for (your name)’s prom date.”

Video

This video shows a method slightly different than that described in the text steps above.

Tips

  • Find out if they already have a date before you ask.
  • Don’t procrastinate. The early bird usually gets the worm!
  • Don’t ask in front of a group of people. This will embarrass both of you.
  • If you don’t get an immediate answer, you might be on standby. It’s likely that they’re hoping someone else will ask, and you’re Plan B. If you suspect this is the case, tell them to let you know within a few days or you’ll assume the answer is “no.”
  • Take rejection gracefully – shrug and say “Thanks anyway! I hope you have a good time with whomever you go with.”
  • Ask them if they are going to the prom. If they say yes, then they probably already have a date. If they say no, ask them.

Warnings

  • Asking through a friend is a big no-no. It not only shows lack of confidence, but it’s also unoriginal.
  • If you do that, the girl will most likely say no.

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20Sep/10

COLD CASE | Indiana Wesleyan Univeristy Dismissal | September 27, 2001

The Story Of Ava’s Dismissal from Indiana Wesleyan University

The dismissal of yours truly and the chain reaction that followed is perhaps one of the most infamous college dismissals. It is certainly one of the most frustrating. Over the years after that fateful Thursday morning, a suspect confessed and recanted several times. But as of September 2010, the IWU cold case remains unsolved.

In the early fall of 2001 the Zinn family was living the American dream. I was an 18 year old newlywed man graduated from Mississinewa High School. My mother was in failing health and was getting worse from emotional abuse from my step-grandfather and my brother was soon to learn that he was beginning a career as an automotive mechanic at Leroy’s Automotive Service on the west side of Marion.

In the fall of 2001, Aeverine Zinn was a typical 18-year-old college boy whose life revolved around media and education. I lived with my mother, Margaret, my brother, Albert, and to a lesser extent, my newlywed wife, Angela, in a comfortable three bedroom home on North Branson Street in the near northeast side of Marion.The household also consisted with my youngest pet nephew (Albert’s boy), Baxter, turning 3 that October, and my boy, Timothy Rags, 22 months.

September 27, 2001 started like any other fall morning for the Zinn’s. My mother, Margaret, planned her day over a cup of coffee. Yours truly, went to college as usual just sixteen days after the horrific tragedy of 9/11. Angela was helping Albert getting prepared for his new job at Leroy’s, while Baxter and Rags were watched cartoons on the family couch. Angela was heading to the gym, but needed to run a few errands before going to her doctor’s appointment.

Angela fed Rags a hot dog and take them out for a walk while watching the Game Show Network. Rushed for time, Angela let it go. And besides, it was unusually mild, in the low 60’s already. Angela, Albert, and I got into what was considered to be the family car, a tan 1981 Ford F-150, and took off to run errands. At the time there were family issues with my step-grandfather

After dropping off yours truly at IWU, Albert drove to the Marsh store in the Panamora Plaza, to see about some items they had on sale. Angela entered the store and walked past the customer service desk and entered the grocery department. It was around 9:00 a.m. There was a tons of construction at the Indiana Wesleyan University Student Center which lacked a Commuter’s Lounge. Also hampering were family budget trouble, which did not help matters.

My IWU Last Known Moments

Only an hour after I entered the campus of IWU, I had an appointment with Jennie Conrad at 10:00 that morning. The discussion Ms. Conrad and I had with Jerry Harrel, who was the Student Services Director at the time, had informed me that “I was suspended from the college until further notice.” I was thinking “Oh my! ” Knowing my family, they believe that may have been too embarrassed to say anything just minutes later.

Whatever the reason, I was now a dis-enrolled student unable to carry out for what Ms. Conrad says “the normal routine of campus life” and unsure what to do next, quite possibly would lead to find another college to attend.

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27Jul/10

COLD CASE: Relationship Troubles (Part 2), Asking A Woman Out

I know some of my Former Facebook friends that have recently chose to unfriend rather than work towards a resolution, those that have developed “Conspiracy Theroies” since June of 2010 may be on to something. 

After reading this article from WikiHow, my suspicions have NOW BEEN CONFIRMED after hearing the news of Jessica Berg. Fifteen years later, there are now a lots of “what if’s.” What should have taken me almost a year in middle school, took 15 years.

I know a lot of you will say, “Oh, My God! I should have helped Ava find her true love 15 years ago!” Since I am now living as a woman, I want to say that become better at asking a girl out–but so far no good results.

 

How to Ask a Girl Out

from wikiHow – The How to Manual That You Can Edit
Asking a girl out is no easy feat, especially when you’re a little shy, and you don’t want to ruin your chances with what feels like the girl of your dreams, but don’t worry about that because most girls will give you a chance for just trying. But there comes a time when you have to step up and be bold, or forever wonder what if. Read these guidelines, draw some courage, and ask her out! And remember, all you have to do is be yourself!

Steps

  1. Approach the girl you like. Say “Hi” or “Hey” and ask her a question or give her a compliment. It can be scary, but it’s really pretty simple. If starting conversations is not your strong point, read these articles:
  2. Flirt a little! Relax, crack a joke, and break the touch barrier.
  3. Gauge her interest. Take notice of eye contact, smiling, laughter, and enthusiasm in her responses. When you look at her, look at her face, specifically, her eyes. Pay attention to what she is saying so that when she asks you something, or stops talking, you can continue the conversation intelligently. DO NOT be staring at her body. Very few girls actually like this, and you staring at her breasts will turn her off of you and will most likely take your mind off of what she is saying, which is never good. Read her body language.
    • Notice if she touches you more often than what friends do (she’s constantly trying to touch your hand or something). If she finds excuses to do so, then you’re probably on the right track. But conversely, don’t assume that just because she isn’t touching you that she doesn’t like you. She may be too nervous to touch you yet. Likewise, don’t start touching her if she isn’t making contact with you. This usually scares girls, making them think that you are just after their body, and no girl wants to feel like an object instead of a person.
    • Observe how she looks at you. If she likes you, she will either hold your gaze for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it means she is nervous but she still likes you. If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she likes you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction. Remember that if you are having a conversation, girls tend to look at your face, so don’t immediately assume that she likes you if you are speaking and she is listening. Again, look at her face, specifically, her eyes. Don’t be thinking about how she kisses, because it shows on the look on your face. Listen to what she is saying and respond.
  4. Help her out. Offer to carry her books, or do something nice for her. If she refuses, then wait until she really needs help or comforting, like when she’s feeling down or just got really embarrassed. Be friendly and outgoing, and don’t be a pervert or you will never get ANY girls.
  5. Pop the question. “Hey, why don’t you come to the movies with me this weekend?” (It doesn’t just have to be the movies – it can be anything you’re interested in, and that you think she’ll enjoy too.)or you could try “what’s your favorite ice cream flavor?” then continue the conversation and offer to treat her with some.
    • Another good way to ask is “I heard about this movie, _______. What do you think about it?” If she says she thinks it looks good, ask her if shed like to go with you to see it. If she asks “as in a date?” say yes. Girls like guys who are sure of themselves much more than they do the cowardly guy who backs away from it. Make sure to ask her if she wants a snack and buy it for her; it will show that you will take care of her always.
    • Don’t make it seem like a big deal when you ask either. Another good way of asking is just by saying “I was wondering if you would maybe want to go to a concert this Saturday night. I think it would be fun if we both went together.” But it can be something else besides a concert.
  6. Keep your cool if she says no. Respond gracefully, like “No problem! Maybe another time.” and SMILE. Act as if you don’t need her, because that will make her want you more. Change the conversation to something else, or if you just want to get out of there, talk for a bit longer, following the rules from above, and then pretend you just got a text message from your mom saying you have to get home or call her or something. Don’t be harsh about it. If you’re too hard, she might feel guilty, as if she was supposed to say yes. And go about your business – As they say, there are other fish in the sea!

Tips

  • Ask her when you two are ALONE. Having others around you will stir pressure on her to say yes or no.
  • Ask her out directly. Instead of texting, getting other boys to ask her out for you, or beating around the bush, just ask her. Even if you’re nervous, this will increase your chances. Most girls will admire your confidence if you are not arrogant about it.
  • Being relaxed and confident is the difference between a comfortable silence and an unbearable silence. It’s natural to have breaks in the conversation. Don’t sweat it.
  • Try to look the girl in the eyes. This will let her know that you are going to ask her out and she will be prepared for when you ask her out and lets her know that you like her. It may take a lot of courage but its helps so much.
  • Don’t be afraid of rejection! Most girls have big hearts and will not let you down very easily, if at all. Some girls agree to one date just because you asked and they’re being nice. Don’t take it the wrong way, it simply means she likes you enough to not hurt your feelings but not enough that she’s ready for a relationship.
  • When you do approach the girl, try not to start the conversation by a “Hey, can I talk to you?” or a “Can I ask you something?”. Don’t ask her out randomly, but these lines are giant hints that you are about to ask her out. This would be awkward.
  • If she says no, just ask “Oh, OK. Is it fine if we’re still friends?”
  • Sometimes the girl may not have much experience and still not be comfortable with going out. They may say no just because they are nervous. If they bite their lip, look away, blush a lot or show any signs of nerves, give them time to think about it. After at least two or three weeks, ask again, casually, and they may say yes.
  • You can ask a friend to tell her you like her so she can get the idea. If she asks you, deny it until you are alone.

Warnings

  • Be persistent, but not too persistent. If she turns you down gently, then she’s politely telling you she’s not interested. If she flat out refuses, back away. You don’t want any girl to think you’re a stalker.
  • If you have to ask her out through a friend, you will get a “no” by default. Girls do not enjoy hearing, “Hey! I’m asking you out for (Name of guy). He doesn’t like you enough to overcome his lack of confidence.” Just be a man and do it yourself! They will hear this regardless of how tactful your friend is, unless her friend is a very close friend to both you and herself.
  • Make sure you don’t have bad breath!
  • The worst thing you can do before asking a girl out is not even having a friendship with her! Become friendly with her so you are not a total stranger to her.
  • Don’t ever use an electronic device to ask her out. Girls hate that. If you are man enough to ask her out, you are man enough for a relationship.
  • Don’t assume they are giving you signs. If a girl is being friendly, it doesn’t always mean she is into you. She could be a normally friendly person trying to be nice by actually talking to everyone.

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27Jul/10

COLD CASE: Relationship Problems (Part 1)

As part of a special section on Aeverine.info, I have decided to post some “Cold Case” Relationship Problems I had while I was while I was in middle school and throughout high school. If you are a woman that went to school with yours truly, feel free to comment on this post (and even post your comment on Facebook and Twitter) and point out where I went wrong 15 years ago and/or still making a mistake.

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