Category Archives: CAUGHT IN THE ACT

23Jan/17

Announcement from Ava Zinn: January 23, 2017

On January 19, 2017, while during a dentist appointment at Lifetime Smiles in Marion, Indiana, I had seen the upper roof of my mouth had a lesion. Upon checking out, I had learned my insurance didn’t cover the injury and I knew something was wrong, obviously at the hands of my own girlfriend.

My girlfriend of two years 49-year-old Kymberly Alvaraz, had overcooked a fateful Christmas dinner that caused great oral injury consistent to injuries confirmed by Doctor Schindler at Lifetime Smiles. After reviewing what my options were about a way to pay a $650 dental bill, I was really upset. But nothing compared to what I would endure moments after leaving the dentist on the afternoon of January 19.

Two days earlier while I was at my family physician at the South Side Medical Park in Marion, I was unofficially diagnosed with a stomach ulcer caused from an unrelated incident that turned out to be one of my closest calls in 30 years, if not the closest call in my life. I had that instinct I knew something wasn’t right and the fact it was the close call was ON MY BIRTHDAY two weeks earlier after enduring an illness that was stemmed from a December 29, 2016 incident near downtown Marion. I had vomited for two days straight right after The Voice 11 finale.

After returning home from the dentist, things escalated to the point where I’ll never forget the actions of my 22-month-old son, Kenneth, and what my 13-year-old daughter, Tabitha, did. Kymberly pushed me on to the living room couch as hard as she could and the stomach ulcer was acting up. She tried to chock me as hard as she could, but fatherly instinct kicked in. I knew what my next move was since I tried to scream yet muffled. Kenneth came in and that was when I knew what my next move was–gouging one of Kymberly’s eyes and then got up and made a citizen’s arrest. Tabitha pulled Kymberly’s hair as a method of restraint as Kymberly was arrested and I asked Kymberly to leave my home. Another daughter of mine, Ashli, transported to local police where she finally charged with second degree strangulation, domestic battery, and assault.

I then realized I’d been in familiar territory I’ve only been in before with my first girlfriend and the mother of my eldest daughter some 20 years ago and the second time was October 2013 with the same woman–my first girlfriend (Amanda Davidson). I knew it was domestic violence. I knew it then when Amanda pushed me hard when I was living with my mom in Van Buren in 1994 and I knew it when Kymberly laid her hands on me on January 19.

Aside from enduring domestic violence both as a guy (I was an 11 year old boy) in 1994 and as a transgender woman now 34 years of age. I saw the same signs, Kenneth saw on January 19. What I saw in my son, Kenneth, that day and my now-oldest daughter, Samantha, in 1994 was me nearly 35 years earlier when my parents got into a domestic spat (I remember sleeping through the ordeal).

The differences from the 1994 incident with Amanda and the 2017 incident with Kymberly was, Kymberly was three months pregnant with my twin girls (to be named Alisan Wé and Saara Jessica) at the age of 49, which is a rarity, while in the 1994 incident, Amanda wasn’t. For all I know, I must have missed the warning signs about postpartum depression that I should’ve known about. I had suspected Kymberly had postpartum depression, yet wasn’t sure about the facts until I watched an episode of “Deadly Women” on YouTube recently. In particular, after watching one particular episode or two of “Deadly Women” had Paula Sims and Kelly Silk if I recall had in my opinion had even worse postpartum depression that didn’t end well.

Another difference was the fact, is It is the same Kymberly that was declared the highest bidder when I auctioned off my virginity in 2014. Amanda, on the other hand, did not pay for the long term relationship rights. Kymberly was the first to pay for the Relationship Agreement.

Will this mean my relationship with Kymberly end in a breakup or even legal action? Since my virginity auction is considered prostitution in Indiana, I’m basically been a “gay hoe” (or an awful slang term describing a slutty transwoman being a prostitute) for the money. If Kymberly wants to mend the long-term relationship after this incident, she will need to be on some psychiatric medication that will definitely help her and with the fact Kymberly approaching menopause, I think there is a slight chance the relationship can be saved. Kymberly will also need some psychological help professionally to help her postpartum depression and with being diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder myself (a matter of what will work for yours truly).

There is a reason why I still have a Dating and Relationships policy since January 4, 1993. The six Relationship Agreements I made with Amanda, Elisa (Everman), Angie (Willis), Christy (Johnson), and Kymberly are basically treated as marriages in some way. In all of those relationships, the aforementioned five women are automatically sex partners of yours truly — no ifs and/or buts about that. It may be one of the strictest relationship policies as it’s considered to be a legally binding agreement and a date when the contract ends. On two occasions, the relationship ended after I caught her cheating since I’ve never did do any infidelities and loyal. On another occasion, the second relationship with Amanda ended after she effectively caused major property damage.

Another issue or two to consider whether or not to even thinking about ending the long term relationship with Kymberly has to be the question whether to impeach Kymberly under Jessica’s Policy (enacted on January 4, 2010 in honor of the late Jessica Berg and initially a tougher dating and relationship policy) á la a Presidential Impeachment. The second issue, also since Jessica’s Policy went into effect, which is how will Kymberly react to getting that “Dreaded Dear Jane Letter” I will send if and when should I have to end the long term relationship with Kymberly.

With that in mind, I am giving Kymberly ONE LAST CHANCE since Kymberly and I have invested more than I’ve invested in Angie and Amanda combined. If Kymberly doesn’t fulfill these expectations in what’s effectively a reconciliation, I may have to end the relationship with Kymberly on January 3, 2018 (the same day the current agreement expires). So we’ll have to wait and see.

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02Sep/16

Witness to a minor car wreck (9/2/2016)

The last time I had been a witness to a vehicular accident (if memory serves me right), the Governor of Indiana was Mitch Daniels, Taylor Hicks was the reigning “American Idol”, Wayne Seybold was the mayor of Marion.

I was walking westbound on Wabash Avenue towards Kem Road in Marion, I had saw a black Dodge Ram heading eastbound on Wabash Avenue. I was minding my own business since I was making the long walk to the north-side Afena Federal Credit Union and as I was approaching the intersection of Kem Road and Wabash Avenue, I heard something and I was like ‘Did I just hear what I THOUGHT I HEARD?!’ Since I was the only witness I ran to the Jeep first since it was appeared to be hit and I asked if everyone involved if they were okay. I could already tell the driver of the Jeep had to be a bit shaken up, and if I recall, the drive of the Ram had to be scared. I’m 90 percent positive both drivers have no younger than 25 years age. I’m sure I will read it in the Police Blotter in the Chronicle-Tribune when it released.

I had known this from watching “Rescue 911” back in the day, seeing an overturned pickup truck back in 1994 near 100 North (Bradford Pike) and 600 East, I knew it was pretty minor yet scary in my judgement. It was nowhere near as serious as the 1994 wreck and a car being on fire back in November 2011, or even witnessing a pet seriously injuries in a hit-and-run on November 29, 2006.

The driver of the Jeep that got hit by the Dodge Ram, from my perspective, suffered a major dent and therefore the reason I am able to conclude that the driver of the Dodge Ram is at fault even though the driver of the Jeep, if I recall, turned right on red.

Within five minutes of the accident, Marion Police Officer McKnight (if I recall), spoke to both drivers before speaking to the witness. I had told the officer what had happened.

No physical injuries occurred from the accident. But for this witness that has lived in Marion since October 16, 1996, it is safe to say this is one of the scariest, if not, THE SCARIEST.

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13Mar/15

Ava Zinn Statement Regarding March 12, 2015 Arrest

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MARION, INDIANA (March 13, 2015) – On the afternoon of March 12, 2015, I was in negotiations with officials regarding the future of the Aeverine Zinn Holdings facility in Marion, Indiana (while I’m still also in negotiations with various apartment complexes in Indianapolis and will start serious negotiations in Muncie that will end over 30 years in Grant County and nearly 20 years in Marion). I’m sure that the parties involved that Thursday afternoon less than a mile from Walmart and Lowe’s in Marion are doing the best they can during the renovations that will displace yours truly, my girlfriend, Kymberly, and my family that will result (as far as my sources have told me) will cause me a major inconvenience.

When my mother passed on May 10, 2002, I swore to her on her death bed the night before at Ball Memorial Hospital, I would do a better job at raising my existing children and future children of mine–to this day nearly 13 years after and a gender transition from Margaret Zinn’s youngest son to now her only daughter, I am far more successful in over the ten years living as a woman. Otherwise, I would be in a gravesite (and no plans to do so).

Unfortunately, with the WISH-TV/Bright House dispute in October 2008 now the causing just 89 percent of the financial problems I’ve faced since my dismissal from Indiana Wesleyan University on September 27, 2001, and the solution that will resolve those two disputes once and for all by relocating out of Marion. That solution nearly came to a close last year, but fell through due to someone who THINKS HE OR SHE KNOWS MY BEST INTERESTS (when that person really doesn’t).

Last year, when I announced that was auctioning off my virginity and having sex for the final time as a biological male on April 18, 2014 (after I had threatened to do following Ellona Santiago’s elimination and such announcement was made after Jessica Meuse landed in the bottom two) of which resulted in a long term relationship with my current girlfriend (Kymberly Alvaraz). The sexual act happened on August 28, 2014 at my home and took every single precautionary measure available. That resulted in Kymberly cheating on her husband at the time Kymberly and I had sexual intercourse (Kymberly’s ex-husband, Dan Alvaraz, has since passed after he filed for an at-fault divorce).  As part of the deal, I did not have any meat from March 1 to December 25 resulting in pretty much have since adopted a low meat habit (from now on, I will only eat meat if a female contestant wins or on a major holiday). Also as part of the deal, I have added all of the major Denver sports teams in addition to supporting the Colts and Bears (as they’re in different conferences and became a problem in Super Bowl XLI), the Pacers, the Fever, and Notre Dame (typically in generally only watch such sporting events when a VFTG competition isn’t happening)–but I figured since Indianapolis doesn’t havre an MLB or NHL team, I’d support Kymberly cheering on the Coloado Avalanche and Colorado Rockies as well as the Denver Broncos (since Peyton Manning has some popularity in both Indianapolis and Denver) and Denver Nuggets (in addition to the Pacers by coincidence both the Pavers and Nuggets were part of the NBA-ABA merger). Other parts include the fact that Kymberly spent nearly $50,000 since the relationship formally began on January 4, 2015–such occourances include was when I ran out of food, Kymberly managed to pick up a couple of restaurants chain gift cards and is more than willing to find real solutions to problems I face, of which I commend her for doing an awesome job for a biological woman that relocated from Colorado to Indiana after spending nearly all of her 46 years in Denver.

Then towards the end of 2014, when I announced that Kymberly and had reached an agreement, and after she was found not guilty of involuntary manslaughter, I knew Kymberly was an honest woman from the day she sat foot that night in May 2010–what I saw in Kymberly clearly told me from staring at her eyes and long brunette hair told me the story she was passed over for a job promotion (of which she mentioned happend in 1993, and she said she wouldn’t go through that again.)

Once “Stalker” drew to a close on WISH-TV as the final CBS program to air on that station before moving to WTTV (channel 4), I had a feeling that justice was served somehow when WISH-TV lost its CBS affiliation, and given the changes that I made to Vote for the Girls to allow my moderator panel to decline DaNica Shirey’s defeat on “The Voice.” I realized that and the fact I was now with a woman 16 years my senior, and after being alerted about another resignation–at which point one era ended and another era began (ala from Peyton Manning to Andrew Luck).

Fast forward to being alerted on February 25, 2015 at 6:00 pm and that’s when I went to battle mode and ready for a fighting until a favorable solution is found. I alerted everyone involved and there’s going to be a problem and when I learned of the date the renovations were starting on the same March 16, 2015 season premiere of Dancing with the Stars–find a neutral site became my top priority for Vote for the Girls and that is what started this whole mess (and because of changes I made in 2002, the person that causes the schedule conflict or is found to be the prime suspect will be confronted). It’s the basis of what is considered to be “ProducersNews Directors Have a Choice, Viewers Don’t” and the fact since taking over the Zinn family Head of Household in 2002 some new rules I’ve implemented such as not being forgiven until one’s death and abolished old rules such as the no TV punishment (which was the first rule I got rid of, and the closest thing to it now is pretty much not letting any of my children watch my YouTube videos for Vote for the Girls–which are typically TV-14 (generally I don’t allow my little girl Tabby to watch such programs until March 27, 2017–the day she is 14 years of age), TV-MA (generally the uncensored versions) and those TV ratings that are on the upper land corner when uploaded by yours truly are there as many of my friends have children of their own.

Then was the day that could have spawned another April 18, 1996 or September 27, 2001–both those dates fell on a Thursday as did March 12, 2015.

There was a reason why I had no choice besides resign from Carey Services on May 31, 2013 after four years beause of the circumstances of keeping up a facility that’s housing the set of VFTG and your own home to keep costs down, in addition to declining mental health (and I believe the incident on March 12, 2015 could’ve been another mental health scare depending on who you ask), and a family that needs my attention.

When I learned about the the solution that was offered (which didn’t meet my expectations) and it will be declined because it does not meet my needs and that is what I believe caused me to eventually have a very bad night in nearly 20 years that got me arrested earlier in the day and ejected from the Vote for the Girls set March 12, 2015 is the fact that as the webmaster of one of the most popular reality-based fan sites like Vote for the Girls is that the are certain rules and standards that I must comply by is the fact that when I made the agreement when I launched Vote for the Girls, all of the active moderators and producers (in my case, the webmaster, host, head moderator, and excecuitive producer) MUST be present at the set on the performance and/or available to tape the presentation of results program on the American version from 7 PM until all of the moderators have voted on performance night as well as the final product ready for upload on to the You Tube channel (a process that takes as much as 12 hours to render a 45 minute clip and another six to be uploaded onto the YouTube channel) on results night, and that cannot be delayed, interrupted, pre-empted (unless the last female contestant’s elimination leaves no Vote for the Girls picks remaining at which point the competition ends and the subsequent remaining episodes will be replaced by a “Classic VFTG”) or delayed for any reason–even weather delays, cable TV blackouts, television reception issues, etc. A violation of this occurred in July 2012 and that didn’t go too well and it is something that cannot happen on Vote for the Girls again. I Know that sounds like an unreasonable demand, but it is necessary as there are no other television providers that will ever meet my needs.

Upon learning the available options didn’t meet my standards, I knew this was a dangerous situation and it was quite clear  the only solution I came up with was the hotel room for a week (a third would eventually stay in the facility during renovations when the competition is in progress usually 24-48 hours). I had preferred to “do a temporary transfer of AT&T U-Verse” from my home to the neutral site and back until renovations were completed (that was a solution Kymberly came up with). Then, that “heat of the moment” when I was pretty much went Judge Judy on the official and in attack mode as if my life in danger. I’m sure that 25 years of client experience will say, “Well played, Ava” while others will simply say “What we’re you thinking?” Clearly emotions were high that Thursday afternoon as I’ve seen in various scenarios (more recently between moderators on VFTG) from fights to outbursts to yours truly at times being a bitch for being extremely passionate, which often times I do swear, I demand perfection, and very rarely blowing cigarette smoke in someone’s face (ala Morton Downey, Jr.)

Was I right to get in an official’s face and yelling at someone? Was it unavoidable? Was it the first time I’ve lashed out? Was it gonna be something that made me proud now, but in 20 years won’t be?

Sure getting in a screaming match, pounding the table, and getting in someone’s wasn’t the best way. When I did that, the first thing I figured, “My life is gonna be screwed up, so is yours for screwing up mine.” Another thought just went through my mind, was the outfit wore a black shirt and black pants (and it was the first time that particular outfit was the appropriate attire since I tend to wear such when I am in a fight mode or when someone connected to me or Kymberly dies). I knew I that I was right to wear that outfit, and nonetheless, I was arrested for assault and disorderly conduct.

I have learned this year, that doing these risky behaviours in 2014, were necessary and demonstrating passion.  Other times that became necessary and didn’t have any alternatives also included some past notable events and often are very brutal Vote for the Girls punishments for failure (if a female contestant doesn’t win). The examples are being without a hotel room in Indianapolis (twice in 2010 and 2013) and Pittsburgh (2011), biking four hours one way from Marion to Muncie (three times in 2011, 2014, and another will happen in 2015), biking three hours from Marion to Wabash in 2011, biking two hours in what felt like 95° heat from Marion to Upland in 2012, as there other reasonable solutions available. The risky behaviours are due to the fact that I have lost faith in Marion and want out as quickly as possible and the reason there are certain stores in Marion I decided to stop going to altogether (examples include Aldi and Lance’s New Market in Marion after being falsely accused of leaving the scene of an accident on July 14, 2014, of which an Aldi store in Muncie and Lance’s New Market in Gas City serving as replacement.)

As a result of this incident and arrest, I have decided to postpone the launch of the Australian version of Vote for the Girls until August 2015 (as a result, my moderator panel will participate will participate in the next Dancing with The Stars Australia competitions for five years, regardless of the outcomes of any subsequent “X Factor Australia” and “The Voice of Australia” competitions) and call off the second series of the United Kingdom version of Vote for the Girls pending the winner of The Voice UK 4 that will end on April 4, 2015 (in the event should a male contestant win The Voice UK a 4 and/or the Moderators’ Save is used to decline the VFTGUK Loss, My moderator panel will not be participating in the Britian’s Got Talent 9 makeup competition and will instead participate in five “Strictly Come Dancing” makeup competitions, regardless of the outcome of any subsequent competitions of “The X Factor UK” and “The Voice UK”, yet will participate in Britain’s Got Talent 10 instead).

I have also decided after Sarina-Joi Crowe’s elimination the night of March 12, 2015, that my moderators on the Vote for the Girls panel in the United States, United Kingdom, and Australia will all participate in the typical Leg Beards for Breast Cancer Awareness in October 2015 as well as No Shave November 2015–even if a female contestant and/or a supported contestant on all three Vote for the Girls adaptations wins American Idol 14, The Voice USA 8, So You Think You Can Dance 12 (if a female contestant does not win American Idol ), America’s Got Talent 10 (if a female does not win The Voice), The Voice UK 4, and The Voice of Australia 4.

The 28 year relationship between the mental health clinic and yours has always provided me the right to reject objectionabe solutions or treatments that doesn’t meet my needs. And just because I’ve been emotionally disabled for nearly 30 years when I was diagnosed with Autism (later Aspergers Syndrome and diagnosed as a transsexual woman) doesn’t mean I lack the knowledge and such behavior can be justified.

If my actions on March 12, 2015 have caused more Americans to pay more attention and get more fans to Vote for the Girls and showing support, I believe I will have accomplished a mission of mine.

 

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26Aug/14

What’s Wrong With Holly Everman?

In more ways than one close friend could possibly imagine, yet in some odd manner since 1990, Holly Everman’s friends have been dreading for this day. They’ve been dreading for the day when she’d reach rock bottom and be forced to come to terms with an alcohol problem that she’s battled for some time.

“She’s a sick, sick woman,” one source told me. “She desperately needs help.”

There was a sad inevitability to what happened Sunday morning on the northwest side of Indianapolis when she was arrested for her second DUI this year alone. Everman faces four felony counts after being arrested on preliminary charges of driving under the influence and possession of a controlled substance. As someone I have been close friends with for 25 years, insider sources and fellow Muncie Central High School Class of 1998 alumni have known that Holly was struggling again with alcohol. For years, they fought to get her into rehab. At the very least, they fought to get her a driver in the hopes of keeping her from getting behind the wheel.

I have been cleaning up Holly’s messes for years now, especially since May of 2012 following the death of another good friend–Robyn (Hurd) Matthewson. Time and again, Everman dismissed the concerns of her close friends and confidants, even if her increasingly attractive physical appearance sent up red flags throughout the community.

I asked her back in 2011 when I was visiting her in Muncie about her weight gain, which has brought her from 135 pounds to 190, and she insisted the doctors kept telling her to lose weight.

I suspected otherwise.

Those of us who are around Holly Everman on a regular basis suspected otherwise for a very long time.

So why didn’t you know what was wrong with Holly Everman?

That’s a fair question I got asked in 2011. But it’s much like the NBA players during the Detroit Pitons Bad Boys era. Suspicions cannot be the basis for a post on this web site — AvaZinn.com. My feeling all along has been, “Unless she gets arrested for drugs, or acts erratically in a public setting while obviously under the influence, it will remain nothing more than an educated guess.”

Now he’s been arrested — twice now.

The game has changed.

That was hammered home Monday morning as a bunch of media waited outside the Indianapolis-Marion County Sheriff’s Office. Around 8:30, Everman and her lawyer,  appeared and got into a car without comment. Everman looked beaten, face blotchy. It was a sad sight but not a surprising one.

She has two big problems, besides the obvious alcohol issue: She has the appearance of a former supermodel, and she has lots of free time. That is a dangerous cocktail for a woman with a genetic predisposition to alcohol abuse.

That doesn’t make her a bad woman, just a troubled one, one who has been in and out of rehab on multiple occasions, one who needs to get herself some help again if she wants to be alive for the American Idol’s next female winner.

This is not written in anger. It’s written with compassion — although if she’d hurt someone while driving, it would take on a different tone. This is a woman 34 years of age I’ve been best friends with since 1989 in the throes of addiction, a disease she’s been fighting for four years with mixed results.

Now comes the wake-up call.

Do you hear it, Holly? Do you hear it? Or do you press the snooze button and continue on this downward spiral? Or did you realize when you shaved your head when Christina Grimmie finished third place on The Voice and Josh K robbed Christina of “The Voice 6” title — in the process delivering Vote for the Girls its first loss on “The Voice” in addition to Jena Asciutto finishing runner-up on American Idol 13? Or did you realize when you had the audacity to call Khayla Chow “a bisexual black bimbo” during an appearance on Vote for the Girls on YouTube, you and Khayla got into a heated argument about the Malaya Watson’s elimination and Chow shoved you to the floor you saw the downward spiral happening?

There’s no shame. There’s no embarrassment. Fact is, if Holly gets the help she needs, she’d be a public beacon for the multitudes who also need help with alcohol and sex addition. Just as Brian Wilkes of Fox 59 in Indianapolis has taken the small step in finding a cure for cancer and more specifically Breast Cancer — though it is Beards for Breast Cancer, Everman can be a guiding light for those in the grips of addiction.

She’s just got to decide it’s time.

Because, well, it is time.

As a secondary issue, there’s now the question of what as I, Ava Zinn, as the administrator, founder, and webmaster of Vote for the Girls, will do once I collect all the pertinent information. I can promise you the fans and followers of Ava Zinn, Holly Everman, as well as Vote for the Girls and INNewsCenter will watch this closely. Will I come down as hard on Holly Everman as I do with other friends? Do not be shocked or surprised if I have to sanction or metes out some sort of harsh punishment against Holly.

At this point, Holly Everman needs to temporarily abdicate control of her role as my BFF to either Alec Dailey (even though she and Alec have gotten into many heated exchanges over the years), Serena R, her longtime right-hand woman, or either her sisters, Elisa and Lynsey–both Elisa and Lynsey have children of their own (of which I was, from 1997 to 2000, in a relationship with Elisa (and have a daughter, Tiffani f/k/a Timothy and Elisa has another daughter, Nermal, now moderator of the UK and Australian version of Vote for the Girls) and I was, from 2000 until 2011, colleagues with Lynsey at NoSirGifts Venues before I walked away in 2011–despite being an heiress to the NoSirGifts franchise). Holly’s got more important business to take care of than worrying about Vote for the Girl’ next victory. With or without Holly Everman, it shouldn’t change very much about the short-term, day-to-day operations of Vote for the Girls. I take care of that end of the business.

Again, though, that’s secondary.

Based on several conversations I had over the past several weeks and months with the other Vote for the Girls (US, UK, and Australia) moderators and other friends of mine and Holly’s, Holly Everman is pretty much a woman fighting for her life.

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