Posted on September 27, 2011
What Are the Next Steps?
Only five to ten minutes after being informed that I was dis-enrolled from Indiana Wesleyan University, most of my friends from school were wondering “Where’s Frank?”. They had no idea that I was no longer enrolled from Indiana Wesleyan University. I informed my professors and a few of my friends at IWU that I had been suspended (but I did not tell them 100%). I will never forget my mother’s expression when she threw her hands as if she was successful (and did not even care as she was in bad health from Type II diabetes, which she would eventually die from on May 10, 2002, and my brother would eventually take his own life three months later on August 10, 2002) that I was dismissed from Indiana Wesleyan University; my wife, on the other hand, was extremely devastated (and this was only four months after I got married, I remember Angie in tears saying “Who would do this to my husband?”), and I was pretty sure that the marriage would not work (Angie would suffer a fatal heart attack June 1, 2010).
My search for another college that September afternoon grew into a years-long search for answers: Who caused yours truly to be dis-enrolled from IWU? Why did this happen? When will I return to IWU? But in the months (and later years) that followed, the harsh reality set in.
Finally, A Break?
As the months and years went by with little progress on my IWU readmission, in August 2002, a woman I took to the Mississinewa 500, reportedly confessed to causing my dis-enrollment from IWU. It was the beginning of a whole new emotional roller coaster for yours truly, and assistance from Cornerstone was needed after Dr. Maloney apparently screwed my education up to and Vocational Rehabilitation did not offer a solution. It was also the beginning of a much bigger change that changed my family’s landscape forever.
That very night my brother, Albert, took his own life in August 2002 sat off at a dramatic event in my life lead to more weaknesses exposed, such as more financial problems that stemmed from not only my IWU dismissal and failing to find another college plus the deaths of my mother and brother: The person responsible for my IWU dismissal had been located and confessed. I thought we were on the way to closure.
Yours truly, then a 19-year-old and my wife, then 24, newly-wed had separated a month after Albert’s death but reconciled after I came out as a transgender lady and began transitioning on December 1, 2004. But there was still no IWU readmission. Without a new college to attend, thus the college credits from IVY Tech (or another college/University) needed to transfer back to IWU, things only worse.
I never did set foot in the Indiana Wesleyan University area after September 27, 2001. A No-IWU Zone (similar to no-fly zones) was and to this day are still in place. I prayed that the “system will not break down and that I would finally get readmitted to IWU.”
But 10 years later (now as a woman), there is still no resolution nor any leads that will get yours truly to get readmitted to IWU (or at least a favorable solution). Without evidence to tie a suspect to my dis-enrollment, and applying for Supplemental Security Income, the Social Security Administration decided that I needed a representative payee and that lead to more disastrous consequences. More problems than solutions came.
Evidence Lost, A Painful Mystery Remains
What may be the most bizarre twist in my dis-enrolment from Indiana Wesleyan University was after reviewing the September 27, 2001, letter and realizing with the death of my mother, the suicide of my brother, and lack of overall support eventually leading to coming out as a transwoman and on January 4, 2004 (the day that not only I turned 21, but also the day I began living as a woman). After coming out as a transgender woman, I realized that many of the requirements needed to return to IWU would no longer work out as a biological male as it turned out.
If I had waited a full year and attended a college/university in the fall of 2002 instead of attending college in the fall of 2001, things would’ve turned out much different with or without coming out as a transwoman.
My dis-enrolment from IWU on September 27, 2001, was riddled with mistakes and missed opportunities, not because of a direct maliciousness towards me, but because like many small college towns with a big campus like Indiana Wesleyan University and mental health organizations like Cornerstone. Life Center Counselling, Indiana Wesleyan University, and Cornerstone Behavioral Health, specifically Dr. Vance Maloney of Life Center Counselling and Jennie Conrad of IWU held onto their pride, wanting to handle the case their way.
There’s now no mistake that many believe that Indiana Wesleyan University lacked the experience of the fact they had a commuter’s lounge that should have been available and favored students living on campus, and whether Maloney or Conrad, or to an extent two IWU alums I’m not mentioning (one was an IWU classmate and the other is the sister of someone I went to school with) or even anyone overseeing the renovations at the time realizes it 10 years later on September 27, 2011, they lacked the experience of dealing with someone who had been a retailer and a webmaster with experience, and now as it had been painfully aware when Tricia Reitler disappeared, obviously lacked the experience to even know when to ask for help when they need it.
It is a broken-hearted process for yours truly, who will never know what really happened and 100 percent why it happened and most importantly to bring justice.
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